The Purpose of Dating is Marriage

I want to be tactful, sensitive and respectful. But in the interest of time, I’ll just get straight to the point.

The purpose of dating, courting, or anything similar ought to be marriage. Faithful, God-glorifying, sexually-satisfying marriage. Anything otherwise is a disservice to yourself.

Sleeping around is not dating. Sleeping around is sleeping around. And faithfully sleeping with one person without marrying is a passive denial of reality.

Acting married without calling yourself married does, in a sense, protect you from the hassle of divorce, but it also makes it easier to walk away when things go wrong. And while that might seem like a good thing, to continually have access to an escape hatch, you were not meant to love or be loved so “safely.” You should try to work things out, and you shouldn’t hover your hand over the emergency eject button, as if that will protect you from pain or heartbreak.

Look, whether you’re single or married, you’re going to be tempted. You’re going to be annoyed by whomever you might be in a relationship with. You’re going to want to give up. The advantage of admitting and committing to marriage is that it makes it more morally difficult to do what isn’t good for you. It gives you a reason to do what is right when valuing yourself isn’t enough of a reason. It gives you someone to devote yourself to, not merely for their sake, but for yours.

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